Clarification of the Brahman-Totality Relation

Thanks to a good friend and brilliant thinker, I have been pushed to develop a number of concepts or relations that I had previously been pursuing. The first of which, the Totality, I will deal with here.

Objection: Given that Brahman is typically understood as a uniform non-dual experience, how can it be said to be the Totality? The Totality is duality in non-duality or vice versa, so the experience of Totality would need to be experience of distinction in non-distinction, in other words it would need to be experience of the previously-defined Brahman PLUS something extra.

Answer: Non-duality in some sense occurs when one is dead. I believe that state to be different than the awareness of non-duality that is sought in intense meditation. The difference implies that awareness/consciousness, being still subject, is merged with the object, which in this case is thought to be not AN object but THE object, the undifferentiated whole. Experiencing this whole implies a merging of the non-differentiated subject with that object. This is non-differentiated, but it is yet differentiated because the subject and object exist still within the state, though sublated. Therefore, the experience of Brahman is the experience of the Totality (as idea?), even though we typically relate it as being non-differentiated wholeness.

Objection: But what about understanding and knowing everything in the universe? Isn't that the totality?

Answer: That is either impossible (I think it is) or irrelevant. The Totality as perfect merging of subject and object in a single non-dual experience which yet has differentiation is, it is true, not a totality of names and forms. So, it does have all things within it, but in a logical/mystical way, and not as an explicit amalgamation of information. That, too is a Totality, but then again why should there be just one? It is like Hegel's philosophy, in which the idea of difference in non-difference (I can't remember which category, but I think it's the Notion?) is deduced as a separate entity from the really-existing "Totality", as it's called in that context.